The Marriage Ceremony
Kashi Yatra
This is a
playful ritual with the groom pretending to get angry and threatening to go to
Kashi on a pilgrimage. He carries a walking stick, an umbrella, a fan, a
coconut, a small packet of rice and dal, and a dhoti. The bride's parents plead
symbolically, with the groom to come back to their daughter who is praying for
him. The bride's father woos him back offering his sister's hand in
marriage.
The Actual Ceremony
The uncles of the bride brings her in and she is seated
facing the groom. They are separated by a piece of cloth hanging between them
and thus cannot look at each other. The two sets of parents sit facing each
other. For the recitation of the marriage mantras (Mangalashtam), the bride and
the groom take standing positions. The cloth is removed, and the bride and groom
garland each other. The bride's father gives away the bride to the groom. He
takes the groom's hand and places it on the bride's hand. The moment when the
bride is "handed" over to the groom, her father ceremonially pours water into
the groom's hands (called dhara), signifying that she is now his. Corn/rice is
then put into the havan five times, before the 7 pheras or the saptapadi begins.
The groom's angavastram and the bride's pallav is tied with a nuptial knot. The
bride follows the groom's footsteps seven times around the holy fire
(saptapadi). Five married women tie the mangalsutra or the holy thread while the
bridegroom holds it around the neck of the bride. The couple then bows before
the elders, and visits the temple for blessings